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 in response to millermom1108...   Hon,

You are not failing your kids. This is just life. Actually, it will make them stronger adults.
Call/contact "Military One Source". They offer many services to servicemembers & families.
They could also get you some counseling to help you deal with the issues you are dealing with regarding your son. They help 'family members' with issues around the house,etc-but I'm not sure if thats just for spouses & kids or if that expands to parents. But, it don't hurt to ask them.
The number is:(800) 342-9647  (its my understanding that you contact them 24 hours, not sure). 

Let me know how things work out for you,

from a soldier (retired)

 in response to ekikaseven...   I would never burden him like that he has no idea things are so hard for us and thank you for mentioning suicide I have nightmares about losing him I can hear him say MOM and I can't reach him. I have always put my children first. Protected them, loved them. Until I lost my job I did it without any help like child support or govt asst. The fact that now I am failing them now tears me apart.

Its possible that your son may be suffering from a mental issue from the war such as PTSD, depression or even a TBI.
People see things in war & don't feel like talking. Or, he may even have gotten hurt physically as well as mentally & don't feel like dealing with people at all. This is the case with alot of servicemembers that have been in war.

Give him time to heal. That may take a long time, but give him time.
If he does talk to you, do not 'burden' him with financial issues & problems in life. Most likely, he is dealing with enough on his plate. Many servicemembers have committed suicide since coming home. So, we do not want to add to his already many issues.

I hope things work out for you.
I will pray that you hear from him soon.